Destiny & Fate. Who controls yours?

It is said that no one can defy destiny. It is believed that no one can escape their fate. If one is fated to die, no matter what he does, he will die one way or another. No matter how much effort he does to escape his fate, it will find him no
matter where he goes. Destiny and fate cannot be evaded nor dodged. The Greeks believe that their gods control their lives. The gods hold their destiny and fate.It is true that if one is fated to die, it will surely happen but one can slightly change or alter how his fate will dawn upon him. Usually, in role-playing games, the main character is able to change his fate by his own will, slightly, or even better completely, altering it. Is it evading ones fate truly impossible or can fate itself can be fooled?

The Greeks believe that everything happens because the gods willed it to happen. But does this mean that if they are fated to die, their skills and abilities will serve them no good? I believe otherwise. Books 12-17 are full of wars. Achaians gaining control over the Trojans and vice-versa, gods intervening in their battles and deaths all through out. Many great warriors are mentioned, like Hector, Menaleus, Patroclus, Great Ajax and others. It is evident that they have the strength and knowledge in war but is that useless against fate? Most of them are fated to die and surely it will happen. Gods favor one over the other yet they give inspiration. It is up to them to use their knowledge and skill in battle. Even if they are inspired by the gods themselves, if they do not have specialization in war, they have no chance. It is evident that even those favored by the gods are overpowered by the opposing team. Hector, who was given strength by Apollo, charges through the ranks of the Achaians. But, even so, he still retreated after seeing Patroclus, who was in Achilles's armor. Even if one is given power and strength by even a god, there is always someone who overpowers him. What is fated is what will happen in the end but what happens in between is up to them. They can choose to fight, like Hector who knows that he is fated to die, or hide and live a normal life, like Achilles who is also fated to die. The ends are the same but what happens in between is solely upon them.

Fate is something that all of us have. All humans are fated to die one day. We will never know when will that be. What we do know is we will die someday. However, that doesn't mean that we should live life in fear of that day. Each one of us should
live their life fully. One person said to me that "No matter what you choose, if God doesn't plan that for you, you will never be happy." God has a plan for each and everyone of us. He gives us signs to let us know what he wills for us. Yet it is
up to us if we want to listen to him. We are born for greater things. This is what God has planned. But no matter how He persists, if we do not heed His call, its useless. So my question to you now is: Will you succumb to fate or build you own?